Ask the Expert: How to Attract the Positive

Why is it so easy to attract negative problems and so hard to attract positive things? That’s just one of the questions you’ve asked, inspiring answers from life specialist Joyce Philbin-Collier.

Joyce Philbin-Collier
Joyce Philbin-Collier

The Question: Why is it so easy to attract negative problems and so hard to attract positive things? I try to have a good outlook for long periods of time but it seems really hard to attract positive things. What am I doing wrong?

The Answer from Joyce Philbin-Collier: There are many distractions out there that keep us from focusing on what it takes to draw positive things into our lives. If you find you are attracting more negativity than you want, it is because your focus is on things that bring negativity. You need to adjust your thinking and your behavior so that you draw abundance and wellness more often.

For example, you may have a relative who, at family parties, always pushes your buttons, especially if alcohol is involved. You always wind up arguing, which is a negative situation. It’s been happening for years and you keep getting drawn into the emotional drama because you haven’t changed your response when this relative starts in. You want to be able to attend family gatherings absent of this drama.

What you can do to change the cycle: Prepare, ahead of time, with answers to comments you already know will come up. By having an answer ready, you can dissipate any possible altercation and politely walk away in peace rather than anger. You will be amazed how much better you’ll feel.

Your focus should always be positive, and sometimes it takes thinking differently. If you do this in the regular part of your day, it becomes easy because you have reconditioned the way you think.

The Question: I am familiar with the Law of Attraction. What do I have to do in order to manifest my desires. I want to know if I need to do all of it? Affirmations, vision board, visualization? Or can I just pick one or two ways to attract what I desire?

The Answer from Joyce Philbin-Collier: The Secret of the Ages would be a great source for understanding this concept. The Secret was inspired by The Secret of the Ages and is a great derivative piece. It offers suggestions like creating vision boards and other methods to keep focus. If you want to have a deeper understanding of the Law of Attraction and the power you possess, The Secret of the Ages will provide authentic comprehensive wisdom on this subject.

The Secret of the Ages concentrates more on the Spiritual part of us and less on physical tools that can distract us from the goal. An interesting fact to note is that Bill Leer was so inspired by The Secret of the Ages that he envisioned and gave the world the Leer Jet, the eight track player, and autopilot for aircrafts. The Law of Attraction and what you can learn from it are boundless.

The Question: I have read The Secret and other books on the Law of Attraction, all while hoping for the result to happen in a good amount of time. Sometimes it happens quickly, other times it takes awhile. How long does it actually take for something to happen? I am wondering if my desire is not as strong during the times that it takes longer to happen?

The Answer from Joyce Philbin-Collier: Law of Attraction does not operate in the same measure of time as we know it If you focus on the amount of time it takes to attract what it is you want then you are not fully committing yourself to, or having faith in the ultimate outcome. Visualizing and believing you already have something is the way to set a thought in motion. Faith and patience is the more difficult part of the process. We cannot force the outcome. It will happen when it is meant to.

Joyce Philbin-Collier is a life specialist and owner of Robert Collier Publications. Through her experiences and study of self-help authors and metaphysics, she has been able to help people with every day questions and concerns. You can contact her at [email protected] and visit her online If your question is selected to be answered here at Ask the Expert, you will receive a free audio book!

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